The Difference Between Men & Women

The other day I received an email from Amazon suggesting some books I might be interested in. The email read:

Andrea,

Are you looking for something in our Wedding Books department? If so, you might be interested in these items.


Here were the titles:

• The Wedding Book: The Big Book for Your Big Day
• Bridal Bargains: Secrets to throwing a Fantastic Wedding on a Realistic Budget
• The Ultimate Wedding Planner & Organizer
• The Busy Brides Bible for Planning a Fabulous Wedding Without The Expensive cost of a Wedding Planner

I could not resist and I forwarded the email to my friend Ashley and said "This says something about my life..."

Ashley: How funny if the bf was getting the same recommendations.
Me: Ha! Over his dead body. He is getting titles like:

• How do get the milk without buy the cow: A man's guide to training his woman
• Help! I don't ever ever ever want to get married and my girlfriend is leaving picture of rings around
• Please no, anything but marriage
• Never a Groom, Always a P-I-M-P

And that is the difference between Men & Women.


End of Story.

 

Not Sure What Happened...

This post just went missing after I posted it....

I think we are back up and running.

I love this gem of a dress, and it is affordable! (Well affordable if I wasn't on a new no-shopping and spending binge trying to get my savings account to look a little bit better these days!)

(And if you would like to buy it for me...well I can tell you where to find me) Found at Delias

In other news I was emptying my mail box this morning before work and in addition to my onslaught of magazines (thank you frequent flier miles) I got a package from Erica! Inside she sent me an awesome pink highlighter (it has a "window" in the tip so you can see what you are highlighting as you go), a Hello Kitty sponge, my favorite erasers that are perfect for crafting and a pretty little soap! For a day that I knew was going to go by super slow since I was dragging, the package totally made my day!

Thank you Erica!

Asking for What Could Make it Great.

I am a major scaredypants when it comes to:

1. Saying what I am thinking
2. Saying what I am feeling
3. Saying ALL of what I am thinking
4. Saying ALL of what I am thinking
5. Telling someone that they missed the mark
6. Asking for what I REALLY need/want.

By scaredypants I mean I

1. I have an irrational fear of making people upset with me.
2. I really avoid conflict like the plague.
3. I don't want to pile too much on to someone and have them peace out because they find it overwhelming or exahusting.
4. I usually cry and get all snotty faced when I have to talk about how I am feeling. So I avoid crying and looking snotty faced.

So I avoid talking about all this stuff and then what happens? I totally freak out.


But more importantly, I have started to realize I am only asking and talking to people to get things to a point where they are "ok" or "good". I have gotten so scared of the repercussions of asking for what I really need in a dialogue. I say what is safe. What feels safe. And what I get is the safe response. This usually leaves me feeling more of the same emotion I was feeling, topped of with massive frustration. Frustrated with myself for not saying more and asking for what I need. And irrationally at the person for not reading my mind (beacuse everyone should be able to read my confusing spaghetti pile of thoughts at all times) and knowing that there was more to it.


I need to start asking for what could make "it" great.


I know it will be hard to get out of that mentality fearing that what I say in full-force to someone will turn them off. The reality being, if it does, they probably aren't really contributing to my happiness and success as a person and I shouldn't be stressed out by that. Not saying I should get all abbrasive and demanding--not at all! But saying overcoming this fear of feeling like I am "too much" will result in no more wondering "What if I had asked for THAT" or "What would happen if I just said THIS".


Ironically a large part of my job is people coming to me and confiding their work-related (and sometimes not so work-related) problems and I provide advice on how to navigate a situation. I also get people asking me all the time for what could make it great during offer negotiations. I did it with my current job. I do it in a professional manner. I need to roll it over to my personal life.



Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli

When the Points Count

I took the plunge. We I am in week three of counting points the Weight Watchers way. It is a lot harder than I thought it was going to be, but I am trying my best to stick with it. I signed up for only the online version since I knew with work there was very little chance I would get off early enough to ever make it to the meetings. Luckily the online points tracker is super easy to use, keeps you crazy accountable and really has made me think about what I eat (and also why am I eating). I need to get a more reliable scale but so far I have seen some results in just how my clothes are fitting.

I have probably been giving myself too much flexibility on the weekends, but I have realized that if I don't have a few days where I am less restrictive I get super demotivated about the whole thing. So thank goodness for the weekly flexpoints and the activity points! Hopefully since my hard earned money is on the line here I will make sure to stick with this and see some real results.

Has anyone else tried WW? Did it work for you?

Strike!

Last night we went bowling...or should I say COSMIC bowling! We lucked out and arrived just in time for old school lanes to be transformed into a trashy club-meets-eight year old-birthday party complete with glowing pins and bowling balls. I haven't gone bowling since my old company's summer company event- and even then I had organized the event so I wasn't exactly in the place to enjoy the bowling. We went to a place out near my old apartment in Alexandria and I have to say the "charm" of this place is pretty awesome. No dress codes, fancy cocktails, or lounge like seating here! Just straight up old school bowling, greasy food, beer and fabulous bowling shoes.

Now I was honest in saying that I was a really bad bowler, I came clean with this information. Indeed, that proved true, particularly when my hand was getting tired! I was fairly awful, with only a few strikes, a handful of spares and plenty of gutter balls. Now, some individuals claim to be a "bad" bowler, and yet still manage to do pretty stinking well. My bowling partner-in-crime was one of these "bad" bowlers. So needless to say my pathetic score looked even more pathetic as he out scored me all three games! But it was a fun evening and something outside the ordinary for a change.

 Action Shot!

Cosmic bowling time!